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You’d Be So Pretty If you….

I grew up listening to my mom bemoan everything from the size of her thighs to the shape of her eyes. So you can imagine my dismay the first time someone exclaimed, 'You look just like your mother!'
So begins You'd Be So Pretty If...: Teaching Our Daughters to Love Their Bodies -- Even When We Don't Love Our Own (Da Capo Lifelong Books, May 2009), former Shape magazine columnist Dara Chadwick's guide to breaking the mother-daughter cycle of bad body image. With humor and compassion, Chadwick uses her own story -- as well as those of the women and girls she interviewed -- to reveal everything from what girls learn when mom diets to the trigger words that can set off a body image crisis. You'd Be So Pretty If... offers fresh and useful strategies to help you build a strong body image foundation for your daughter -- even if your own body is far from what you'd consider "perfect."
In an interview, Chadwick explains, “For example, if the family decides to go out for ice cream and mom just orders a Diet Coke every time, what does that say to her daughter? Or when the family heads to the beach or pool for a day of swimming and mom refuses to remove her cover-up? My mom was a huge fan of self-deprecating jokes; one of her favorites was, “The first rich blind man through the door is mine.” She also liked to choose clothes that she said, “hid a multitude of sins.” Those words and behaviors aren’t lost on girls. You’re planting a seed with each comment and when her body starts to look like yours, guess what? She remembers, and applies that criticism to herself. The good news, though, is that the stories shared by the women and girls in this book will help readers see that subtle changes can have big effects.”
Magazine writer Diana Kapp is seeking women in their 20s and 30s (mothers or not) who want to be interviewed for an article on how disordered eating and body image issues are passed through families, particularly mothers and daughters. If you've got a story you'd like to share, email her at


I agree to this post. Being

I agree to this post. Being beautiful doesn’t mean you have to buy sexy dresses, make ups, etc. You don’t have to spend money or use your credit cards just to beautify yourself, what is only needed is confidence. Confident in a way that you know in yourself that you are beautiful in your own way. Anyway, talking about credit cards, there are new credit card laws and while some are happy, the companies that fund those credit cards are weeping in their...whatever. Credit card companies can no longer change interest rates without advanced notice, cannot market to college students, and cannot be given to anyone under 21 years of age without a co-signer of proof of ability to repay. Essentially, it might cut down on people having to get payday loans just to pay credit card bills. The card companies are crying about it, of course, and are anticipating far stricter lending policies.

As a way of support and

As a way of support and inspiration for those on the journey towards recovery I would like to share with you the publication of my novel Cardboard: A woman left for dead in North America and the UK. I hope it adds to the literature of hope and discovery.

About Cardboard:
Cardboard: A woman left for dead is a ficto-critical account of one woman's life-threatening eating disorder and her eventual hard-won recovery. A university student, Lucy falls ill while on a coach trip in Europe. Ashen, thin and with a thready heartbeat, she cannot understand what is wrong with her. The tour leader decides she is homesick. And lying on her bed, she is left to fend for herself. In her tiny hotel room Lucy wonders what she should do? Is she really sick or just homesick? Reluctantly, she decides to fly to an English speaking country. And to her embarrassment is taken off the plane in a wheelchair. Lucy is now a patient. And unknowingly enters into a dynamic and powerful struggle over the ownership of her life's narrative. Hospitalized she undergoes a range of treatments - some harsh, some ineffective, others insightful and intelligent. Cleverly observed, Lucy invites the reader to make sense of what it means to be ill. To understand why it is so difficult for her to eat. And as she fleshes out her journey towards recovery, demands her distress be understood. Demands it be put into her own words. When it was first published Cardboard was recognized as a compelling portrait and one of the first books to understand the importance of the role of narrative in the recovery process. Similarly today when much of the focus on eating disorders concerns decoding the genetics and biology of the condition, this prize-winning novel continues to provide an understanding of the individual's affective experience and the socio-cultural context in which it occurs. A must read for any person interested in the big questions Who am I? What do I want?